New Thoughts. New Lifestyle. New Life.

Change your thoughts and you change your world. - Norman Vincent Peale

The mind is a truly fascinating place and the more we learn about it, the more we realize just how true this statement is.  In fact, to say that the mind is fascinating is a bit of an understatement.

Recent studies by neuroscientists have shed new light on the mind and, thereby, made it even more fascinating.  These experts support the claim that we’ve always driven home, here on Out of Bounds:  We are much more in control of our minds, our thoughts, and our lives than we realize.

Consider this:

Your mind, on average processes 60,000 thoughts each day.  Since most thinking is done on autopilot with the mind thinking the same habitual thoughts over and over again, the human mind “syndicates” many of its original thoughts in the same way TV Land syndicates favorite sitcoms.

Not only does the brain play our thoughts out as re-runs, it even protects our habits, whether they’re good or bad.  These habits become Engrained Habits and, like our thoughts, they pretty much act themselves out with little input from us.

Experts say that when we’ve repeated a new thought or practiced a new habit for about 90 days (basically 3 months), it becomes part of the brain architecture… part of our hardwiring.

Remember the saying, first we make our habits and then our habits make us?  Voila, another understatement.

Amazing how everything goes back to our thoughts, isn’t it?  Everything begins as a thought – our every action, our every word, our every habit.  They each were conceived with a single thought.  If that’s not a wake up call to guard our thoughts, I don’t know what is.

We have about 60,000 thoughts each day.  Do you realize the power behind that statistic?

How much power could you generate in your life with 60,000 daily thoughts?

How much destruction could you unleash upon your life with 60,000 daily thoughts?

Positive thinking breeds a positive mindset, positive habits, and positive repercussions. Negative thinking breeds a negative mindset, negative habits, and negative repercussions.

The good news is that we CAN change the way we think.   My favorite illustration of this fact:  Clear your mind for a second.  Now think of a Beagle Puppy.  He’s lying in the green grass, looking at you – cuter than anything has a right to be!

Do you see the puppy?

Now think about a $100 bill.  See Benjamin Franklin’s face in the middle, with the number 100 written boldly in each corner?

So.  Where’d the beagle puppy go?

“It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.” - Robert H. Schuller

This exercise is proof positive that you can push one thought aside for another thought.  Personally, in this case, I’d rather think about the puppy – but you get the idea.  When we have negative, destructive thoughts, we can easily push them aside and think about something positive instead.

Truth be told, it’d be better to think about the beagle puppy than it would be to think negative thoughts – so, when a negative, destructive, critical thought pops into your mind, replace it automatically with the image of a beagle puppy.  Then, move on to a more positive thought pattern.

Remember, the more time you spend with a negative thought, the greater its power is to harm you. Take this power and make it work for you!  Think positive thoughts and repeat positive affirmations.

As Henri Matisse said, “There are always flowers for those who want to see them.”  Or beagle puppies…..

The Power of Affirmations and Positive Thinking

Think Positively Those of us in the Self Help and Mental Fitness industry love nothing more than coming up with so-called secrets to personal success and achievement.  While each “secret” carries a great deal of weight and, in its own way, can help us along our route to self improvement, there is one good, old-fashioned, often overlooked truth:  Positive thinking can work wonders.

I know you have heard of affirmations.  They are short and to the point sayings or quotes that people repeat to themselves with varying degrees of frequency.  These sayings serve to “affirm” what it is they hope to accomplish in their life.

The individual who is trying to stop smoking (or another unhealthy habit), for example, may use one of the following positive affirmations:

  • My health is more important to me than this.
  • I am getting healthier every day.
  • I am getting stronger every day.
  • I am strong.
  • I can do this!

We all know how powerful positive feedback is, but we can’t always get it from the people around us.  After all, they’re all busy on their own road to self improvement.  The good news is, we can be our own cheerleading squad.  We can, if we will commit to it, provide our own positive feedback.  The trick is to be very careful what you say to yourself.  Watch your thoughts like an overly protective mother watches her child on a playground. 

As a mother worthy of the title overly protective parent, I can tell you a hawk doesn’t have any better vision!

When negative thoughts creep in, chase them away with positive affirmations.  Make your mind a steel trap – one that keeps positvie thoughts IN and negative thoughts OUT.  To a very real extent, we create our world within our mind before we create it anywhere else.  If it is the birthplace of things that will take root in our life, shouldn’t we want the environment to be as positive as possible?!

The next time you begin to think negative thoughts about yourself, force the thoughts to stop.  Replace them immediately with positively affirming thoughts.  I’ve always taught my daughters this about thoughts:  Never say, to yourself, things you wouldn’t dream of saying to another person.  You would never (I hope!) tell another person, “You’re fat (or worthless or old or skinny or….).”  Never say them to yourself.  Critical, ugly words are emotionally crippling – they act upon your psyche just as a dropped hammer would act upon a toe.

A person’s spirit can be just as broken as a bone, but it takes far longer to heal.  You would never consider breaking someone else’s spirit, right?  Starting today, always be just as careful with your own.

Positive affirmations and positive thinking work wonders in a person’s life.  If you are one of the individuals who have their doubts, do me (and yourself!) a favor:  Try it for yourself.  Grab a few of the affirmations listed below and memorize them.  Use them throughout the coming days and see, for yourself, how comforting and inspiring they are.

After a few weeks pass, I promise you this – you’ll never leave your house without them again!

Favorite Positive Affirmations:

  • I can do this.
  • I’m a finisher.
  • I persevere.
  • I am getting healthier everyday.
  • I am growing each day.
  • I can do anything I set my mind to.
  • Nothing is too hard for me.
  • I’m tough!
  • I am living out my dreams
  • I am surrounded by people who love and support me.
  • I always find a way.
  • Nothing gets in my way.
  • I am getting closer and closer to my goal.
  • I have a wonderful life.
  • My family loves me.
  • I am important.
  • I am in control.
  • I am successful in everything I do.
  • I can change the world!
  • I’m headed in the right direction.
  • I love my life.
  • I’ve got a great attitude.
  • Life is fun.
  • I’m hopeful about the future.
  • I like me as a person.
  • I know what I want and how to get it.
  • Look out world!

Make each affirmation count double,
~ Joi

*** The poster above says, “THINK SMART. Every answer you seek lies within you. Learn to appreciate the questions first. They will guide you to great discoveries. You can do anything. Think big.” I love this poster’s attitude!

So, What Exactly is Normal Anyway?

Have you ever been guilty of mumbling one of the following statements – either loudly or under your breath?

  • Why can’t my life be normal?
  • Why can’t so and so act normal?!
  • I can’t wait for life to get back to normal…

I’m afraid I’ve been guilty of the “I can’t wait for life to get back to normal…” moan.  In fact, pretty recently!  I don’t think I’ve mentioned it on this particular blog before (I have more than 10, so who knows?!?) – but my spoiled, pampered, much beloved youngest cat, Alexa, recently broke one of her legs in two places.  A normally VERY active cat has had to be confined to total bed rest (we got her a dog kennel/large cage).  Because she’s accustomed to being by my side all the time, I spend a lot of time lying in the floor by her.

Last night, as I sat by her, petting her head and feeling helpless to help my little girl heal any faster – I thought, “I can’t wait for life to be normal again.”  I caught myself almost immediately and wondered, “And just what would that be?”

I mean, just because something in our life is currently stressful doesn’t mean life is all of a sudden abnormal.  Truth be told, isn’t something at least a little to the right or left of our “normal” always taking place?

Granted, some “lefts” or “rights” are more extreme than others.  Some feel like our “normal” has been given a sound beating and left for dead!  This summer, I battled an extreme case of poison oak for two months.  I had it on my face, my arms, legs, stomach, and back. I was covered with pink calamine lotion head to toe.  Misery!  To compound the suffering, I have major allergies and asthma and each responded badly to the poison oak.  Two months. Eight weeks.  Over 50 days.

One night I woke up scratching myself so hard that I started bleeding.  When I went to the bathroom to smear back up with calamine lotion, I sat on the side of the tub and just laughed. I guess sometimes you have to.

Other times, the “right” or “left” feels more like your normal just has a headache.  That’s where I am right now.  I know my beautiful cat is going to be okay and will, in fact, be herself again in a few weeks.  I’m thrilled she wasn’t hurt worse.  She had taken a running jump at an ironing board that, in turn, fell on her.  I’ve thanked God many times that there wasn’t a hot iron on the board.  My normal has a migraine, and when that’s the case - sometimes all we can do is wait.  Time is the aspirin and the only solution to a lot of problems.

Chasing Normal

Money troubles, relationship problems, ill (or broken!) pets, dead-end jobs, lay-offs, etc – life doesn’t think inside the box.  Heck, it’s not even aware that a box exists.

In fact, I guess it’d be safe to say that expecting or looking for normal would make as much sense as a dog chasing a car.  We aren’t going to catch it – and even if we did, we wouldn’t know what to do with it once we had it.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting peace, happiness, and smooth sailing. Wouldn’t we be simpletons if we didn’t want these things in our life?! But, if one gets to the place that they think they can only be happy, pleasant, or in a good mood when every t is crossed and every i is dotted – well, that’s going to be one miserable person.

Do What You Can and Try Not to Worry About the Rest

When you feel like you’re chasing normal, ask yourself a few questions.

  1. Is my situation one I can change?
  2. Is my situation one that I’ll simply have to “ride out”?

If your normal has a headache that you can cure – what are you waiting for?!  Do what you can to make the situation better.

  • If you have relationships in your life that feel strained and you find yourself arguing more than ever, swallow your pride and do your part to make things better.  If you need to forgive… forgive.  Make the first move, you’ll be the winner in the end.
  • If you’re overwhelmed at work or at home, sit down and make a list.  Divide the things you have to get done into “bite sized” chunks.  Take each, one at a time, and put a glorious line through each as it becomes a done instead of a to do.
  • If there’s something troubling you that you have no control over (such as an illness), find a way to cope.  Sometimes, it helps to remind yourself that “It is what it is.” None of us get through life unbruised.  God’s own Son faced more adversity, pain, hatred, betrayal, and poverty than any of us ever will… and look Who He knew!  In fact, there are people, even now, who have it much, much worse than we’ll ever have it.  When we remind ourselves of that fact – it makes our burdens seem smaller.

Above all, remember this:  The next time you’re looking for normal – look around you. It may have a few scrapes, it may have an itchy rash (!!!), it may be short on funds – but it’s all normal.  It’s life… and very often, it IS what we make it.

Make each moment count double,
~ Joi

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