First of all, before I say anything else – I want you to know that I don’t look down on anyone. I may have my share of faults, but one thing I can say about myself is that I do not judge others. I was cut from “live your life and let others live theirs” material. I do throw my opinions in people’s paths when they’re doing things that could hurt themselves or others, though. It’s not from an angry, judgmental place, however. I’m one of those people who truly just wants to help others.
Having said all of that… what are these women thinking?!?!? Here’s the gist – mothers are smoking marijuana and justifying it as a means of relaxing and unwinding. One even said she does it to keep from taking out her frustrations on her husband and children. Are you kidding me? So, if she doesn’t smoke illegal weed, her husband and children will have to pay for it?
Others claim that it’s how they unwind at the end of the day. Have they never heard of….
- Drinking a cup of hot tea
- Reading a chapter from Dean Koontz’s latest book
- Baking cookies (something that would actually benefit everyone else)
- Watching tv
- Taking a bubble bath
- Working in a flower garden
- Working a crossword puzzle
- Petting a cat
- Walking a dog
- Walking without a dog
- Keeping a journal
- Watching birds
- Going for a manicure
- Shopping therapy
- Having a latte at Starbucks
- Taking a nap
- Going to a chick flick
Countless other women handle stress without turning to drugs – which, let’s be honest, is what marijuana is. It’s not a therapy any more than getting drunk is. It’s illegal and it’s a crutch. An illegal crutch isn’t something anyone should be proud of and it certainly isn’t a legacy they should want to leave for their children. They might as well wear a t-shirt that says “2 WEAK 2 COPE.”
No one needs anything like marijuana to cope with life. What they need is more guts, more backbone, and more respect… respect for themselves, their country and its laws, and their family. One even acknowledged that being arrested was a risk she knew she was taking. Wow, to love one’s family that much is totally amazing. Can you say completely selfish???
I would challenge each of these women (and men, of course) to get rid of their crutch completely for a whole month. Stand on your own two feet day in and day out. Whether your crutch is alcohol or marijuana, you’ll never learn to stand on your own until you put it away. I promise you, something amazing will happen in just a matter of days – you’ll find that you have more strength than you ever thought possible. Then as you find your legs, something even more remarkable will happen, you’ll get stronger and stronger.
Soon, you’ll be looking at others with their crutches and wondering, “How can they be so weak? I’m standing on my own!” This new found strength will be something that no one can ever take from you and the legacy you leave to your children will be that of a very strong individual who didn’t need a crutch to stand.
In the words of Tim Gunn on Project Runway, “Make it work!”
Make each moment count double,