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It seems the Dog will be hunting for more than bad guys now that his mouth has landed him in the public’s dog house. He’ll be hunting for employment, redemption, and the miracle that will bring his thousands of fans back to his camp.
Good luck, better luck, and don’t hold your breath.
A lot of people are debating the N word again. In my book, no debate is needed. It’s a vile, hateful word that only springs forth from hate. It’s a word that causes pain, anger, and division. A word that people have been trying to get away from for two forevers. My own personal opinion is that only fools have this particular word in their vocabularies. Non-fools deleted it ages ago.
As with most things in life, my heart goes mostly out to the very young. Can you imagine the heavy-hearted parents trying to explain to their children why “Dog the Bounty Hunter,” pulicly viewed as a hero, used a word that only the vilest would use. Heroes don’t hate innocent people and they don’t use words that hurt.
My heart also goes out to the older generation, though. The ones who hoped to see the word pass away before they did. Fortunately they have the wisdom to know that when necks were being handed out, some people apparently said, “Awwww, man, make mine just as red as you can.”
I honestly have no idea if Dog’s heart is as racist as his words. As someone who had always been a fan, I hope not. But as someone who believes that our thoughts eventually come spilling out of our pie hole, I have to say, “Hmmmmmmmm.”
This is yet another instance where we can learn something important. My daughters will tell you that I’m a firm believer in these sort of instances – they’re everywhere and, as mom, I love to make sure my girls catch them before the lessons get away! There are actually two lessons lying around in this disgracing public rubble.
1. The biggest lesson is to keep a close watch on your thoughts. Don’t rent out any space in your heart or mind for hateful, nasty, negative feelings – they’re not good tenants. They’ll make a mess and they’ll never pay you with anything worth having. You may think that you can keep their door closed on them and only visit them in private, but a lot of people have thought that before – Dog amongst them. They’ll come out, make no mistake about it. Especially if you spend a great deal of time with them in private, eventually you’ll forget to lock the door behind you.
We should always make sure to never use words in private that we wouldn’t want to use in public. Again, locks don’t stay locked – especially the ones we use on our lips. These locks are easily opened by anger, bitterness, and a whole team of other emotions that are expert lock-pickers.
The Bible tells us in the book of Numbers, I believe – (don’t hold me to it, I’m not nearly as knowledgable of the Old Testament as I wish I were) to be sure that our sin will find us out. Like every other word in the Bible, these are, of course, perfectly right….wherever it is they’re found in the OT! It may take an hour, it may take a day, it may take a month, it may even take a year – but you can be certain of one thing, what we do comes looking for us down the road and, of course, it always finds us. Like a cosmic boomerang. With teeth.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
2. The second lesson I see amongst this particular nastiness involves family. First of all, let’s not lose sight of what a world class chump the puppy was! Selling out your own father, irregardless of what he has said or done, is about as low as it gets. But, this will probably be the first and last time we ever hear from or about this guy – so I’m just going to leave him alone to spend his ill-gotten money. He can deal with his own dentally magnificent boomerang one day.
Family can be a really hard thing to navigate around, can’t it? I mean, we love our family madly – but, can they or can they not, drive us to the edge of reason sometimes?!?! Especially when it involves someone who joins your family by another member’s choice. When I met and married my husband, my family couldn’t have been more welcoming and kind. I was never more proud of them than the way they welcomed him into our lives and family. I honestly, honestly can’t remember my dad ever saying one negative thing about him. How un-dad is that?!?! He always talked to Michael…who, of course, always talked to my dad like they were old friends. If my dad wanted to talk about basketball, they talked about basketball – if he wanted to talk about his rose beds, they talked about his rose beds. Michael knew absolutely nothing about roses, but he learned! As a matter of fact, he planted some in our own yard that were the most magnificent beauties I’d ever seen.
If a son or daughter brings someone into your family that you’re having trouble warming up to – unless they’re causing harm to your child, do yourself, your son/daughter, and them (in that order) a favor: work on your thermostat! Stop expecting perfection – it’s not going to happen. Of course your perfect son or daughter deserves perfect, but it’s just not going to happen. There are going to be some things that drive you nuts about these new additions to the family: the way they dress, where they work/don’t work, the way they do (or don’t do!) their hair, etc. But nitpicking will just do two things: One, It’ll make you look grumpy and judgemental. But worse (far worse), it’ll put distance between you and your child. And that is the last thing on earth any parent wants.
When you’re in private, stop being so negative – it just works up more negativity. Don’t call them names or even think the names (ask Dog, name-calling’s not only childish, it’ll be your undoing) – refer to them by their names, just as you’d want them to refer to you. Let your son/daughter know that they can talk about the people in their life around you without you calling them names or making fun of them. Not cool.
Do your family a huge favor: The next time your son or daughter brings their special someone around, be friendlier than ever. Smile, laugh, talk – then, look at the face that you’ve loved since the first day you saw it. It’ll be wearing the kind of happy expression you wish it would wear forever. And you’ll know you put it there. Now, that’s cool.
Make each of life’s lessons count double,