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by Brooke Faulkner
You hear it everywhere, from people to the media, to be more confident in yourself. Although a very worthy goal, it’s much easier said than done. Self-esteem issues plague just about everyone, some more so than others.
This makes it especially difficult to trust yourself and your instincts. However, no matter how hesitant of a person you are, a more confident and self-assured life is never out of reach. Confidence, like many other traits in life, is a habit. You can’t turn it off and on like a light switch.
It must be worked on and practiced every day. Through repetition, you will train yourself to realize your unique strengths and achieve things you never thought possible before. All you have to do is be willing to accept help and take the first step to a more confident you in 2018. Here’s how:
Counseling for Your Brain
Confidence is a mindset, but your mind can work against you when you’re trying to adopt this new way of thinking. This is where neurocounseling comes in. This field of counseling is based on the brain and how it functions.
When researchers discovered patients’ psychological issues were rooted in the makeup of their brain, they knew a new form of counseling was called for. Instead of using observation alone to track the progress of a patient, biofeedback and imaging scans are used in neurocounseling to give more tangible results.
Brain imaging tests can give counselors a 70 percent chance of correctly diagnosing their patients, a much higher success rate than symptom observation alone. When counselors discover what’s causing the irregular brain waves that indicate mental health issues, they can form a holistic treatment plan that will directly affect the source of the problem.
The end goal is to retrain your brain to form new cells and connections to induce behavioral change through brain chemical alterations. Counselors do this by teaching you self-regulation skills to control how you think and act.
By teaching you to control your heart rate, breath, and even body temperature, neurocounseling has the potential to increase blood flow and activity to the areas of your brain that control your emotions, and therefore your confidence.
Get a Life Coach
Although developing self confidence happens inwardly, you can reach your self-esteem goals faster by enlisting the help of a life coach. These professionals are educated in a variety of tools and practices to help their mentees get on the right track.
The purpose of a life coach is not to do the work for you but help you find the ways that work best for you to make the changes you want in life. They not only motivate, but also help you strategize and hold you accountable to your goals. Having a life coach will increase your chances of success even more so than going on your own.
Knowing you have someone in your corner that wants to see you achieve your goals as much as you do is the greatest encouragement you can receive in your endeavor to improve your confidence. Depending on which part of your life you’re lacking confidence in, there’s a specialized life coach that can help.
Whether you want to improve your health, work, or find your overall purpose, your coach will be trained to assist you in a multitude of ways. There are even life coaches that specialize in specific problem areas, such as careers, finances, relationships, and spirituality.
If you’re not ready or feel comfortable with face-to-face interactions with a coach, you have the option of being coached online. This is especially useful when you’ve moved to a completely new place. Your life coach can advise you on how to settle in and what your next steps should be to make yourself more at ease. This can all be done from the comfort of your home since you’re able to choose an individual that’s just right for you instead of someone who’s right in the area.
Practice Wellness Techniques
In addition to neurocounseling and life coaches, there are several wellness techniques you can do on your own to improve your confidence. One of those techniques is visualization. By visualizing a clear mental picture of the confident person you want to be, you begin to see the possibility of it happening.
The more detailed the image is, the more motivated you will be to make it happen. The chances of you actually attaining that goal increases as well. This is because your brain interprets the mental images in your mind as if they are real.
Your brain is then primed to send messages throughout your body to perform in a way that fits the image. When you visualize the end result of your goal, that’s called “outcome visualization”. However, there’s a second kind of visualization that should be paired with the aforementioned method to achieve the best results.
This technique is called “process visualization” and is where you imagine yourself taking the necessary steps to become more confident. By combining these two types of visualization, you are more likely to take the actions you need to succeed and realize your goal. Another wellness technique you can utilize is meditation.
In short, meditation is the training of the mind. This practice eases stress from your body and helps you become more aware of yourself. As a result you’ll find that you’re a much happier person. You can achieve these results in one of two ways:
- The first method is concentration meditation. This involves focusing on a single thing, be it your breath, a sound, or an object. Whenever your mind starts to wander to other thoughts, refocus your attention on the thing you’ve chosen.
- You can also practice mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness meditation differs from the concentration technique in that you are not to ignore the various thoughts that cross your mind. Instead, acknowledge your thoughts, but then let them go. Don’t dwell on one thought for too long. Just observe how your mind thinks. Your thoughts may be chaotic at first, but you will find balance and confidence as your meditation practice continues.
You’re self-esteem may be at a low point this new year, but that doesn’t mean you have to end it that way. There are many steps you can take to have a more confident 2018. Neurocounseling is an option you can look into as well as finding a life coach. Just make sure you practice some wellness techniques while you do. If you follow these tips, a more confident you will be well in reach this year.