Quote About Reading by Confucius

Confucius Quote about Reading

“No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance.” - Confucius

I write a lot of book reviews on Self Help Daily.  I’ve noticed that books seem to be getting better than ever. There really have been some remarkable books published over the past few years.  It’s as though authors and publishers “get” what they’re up against with games, technology, and computers.   Instead of caving in, they’re simply stepping up their game like never before.  It’s as though they welcome (and love) the challenge.

Whatever their motivation, I’ll just continue to enjoy the pleasure and growth that they’re providing and pray that they keep it up.

If you don’t already have a passionate relationship with reading, as a mental fitness devotee, I urge you to grab yourself a new book today and begin a lifelong relationship with reading.  It’s one of the greatest habits you can develop and one of the few that you’ll ALWAYS take more out of than you put in.

A few suggestions:

  1. Choose an author and begin reading every single book he or she has ever written. A few I’ve been reading for ages are Agatha Christie, Dean Koontz, Nicholas Sparks, William Shakespeare, and Lilian Jackson Braun.  I’ve recently fallen hard for Nora Roberts and I notice that I have a lot of catching up to do with her books. Does the lady ever take a day off?
  2. Branch out into genres that are completely new to you. I have to admit, I went through a period of time when I thought there were only two types of books: 1.  Mysteries, and 2. Those I’d never touch. When I was a teenager, I always had a Dr. Pepper in one hand and an Agatha Christie book in the other.  When I branched out for a tremendous love affair with the Anne of Green Gables series of books, I realized that there was literary life beyond Hercule Poirot.  Then,  years later when I discovered Dean Koontz… my oh my!  What a crazy world opened before me.  What would Agatha have thought?
  3. Never underestimate how great non-fiction books are. I love non-fiction books every bit as much as I love fiction books. Actually, I think I prefer non-fiction books. Biographies, auto-biographies, and historical novels fascinate me beyond belief.  Choosing a period of time and reading everything you can get your hands on about it is educational AND entertaining.
  4. Read Online. If you’re one of those people who prefers reading online, feel perfectly free to do so.  There are endless articles, essays, and yes, even stories online.  When I have a crisp new book I feel like a kid with a brand new bike.  Oh, the possibilities!  However, finding a fascinating new website – or a new article on a favorite website (such as National Geographic, Discovery Channel, History.com, etc) is just as exciting.

One final piece of the puzzle, so to speak: Be certain that you read about many different things.  Don’t be educationally nearsighted! Don’t just read within one or two genres – branch out, extend your scope, and broaden your horizon.    Our brains LOVE to be challenged and they thrive on learning  new things.    And isn’t a thriving brain what we’re all after?!?!

Make each moment count double,
~ Joi

Why Reading, Alone, Isn’t the Best Mental Workout

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Reading, after a certain age, diverts the mind too much from its creative pursuits. Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking. – Albert Einstein

This quote kind of seems to fly in the face of everything we’ve clung to for years, doesn’t it?  But before we write Albert Einstein off as a quack, let’s really think about the truth of this quote.  We all know how important creative thinking is for mental fitness.  When we stop thinking for ourselves and stop trying to figure things out creatively and on our own terms… we’re in serious trouble.

Never allow yourself to become so enthralled with reading (or, well, anything for that matter) that it’s your only source of “input”.  Never become so engorssed in your daily reading (newspapers, blogs, e-mails, magazines… even Dean Koontz) that you forget to think for yourself!  Make it a point, each and every day, to exercise the  creative corners of your own mind, don’t just rely on the fruits of other’s minds.

Begin keeping a journal or even start a blog!  If you already have a blog, post articles more often – even if it’s giving your opinion on a particular subject.  You’ll be getting in touch with your own thoughts and with your own creative side and I can’t tell you how much your brain will love you for it!  The brain thrives on new things.  When you read for hours upon hours, you may think you’re feeding your brain everything it needs when, in fact, you’re lulling it to sleep and boring it to death!

Is reading bad?  No way!  Not even close.  However, many people fall back on reading and “obtaining” information – they rely entirely on reading to strengthen their brain.  Big mistake.  We have to be interactive with mental fitness.  Below are a few ways to strengthen your brain and give your mind the workout it actually craves.

  • Learn new things.  Push yourself to learn how to do something new.  Don’t just read about new things – experience new things.  Reading is wonderful and, by no means, should you cut it out of your daily activities.  However, for true mental fitness, you need to actively pursue new activities and physically DO and/or CREATE new things.
  • Keep a journal.  Don’t just read what others write, get on the other side of the words.  It’s a wonderful way to exercise your creativity.
  • Work jigsaw puzzles.
  • Work Sudoku puzzles.
  • Work crossword puzzles.
  • Take up a new sport.
  • Take different routes to/from work.
  • Take up a new language.
  • Learn to play an instrument.
  • Take up cooking!  Watch the food network, buy some cookbooks, and get in the kitchen and amaze yourself.
  • Go new places – don’t just read about them!

Also, an extra note about reading:  If the books you read are all fiction, you really aren’t doing your brain any favors.  I love a great novel – I’ve read just about every Agatha Christie book as well as most by Dean Koontz, Nicholas Sparks, and John Grisham – however, keep in mind that these books are more entertainment than they are educational.

To really give your mind a great workout, you have to be more interactive with life – not just read about it!

Keeping Small Issues Where They Belong

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One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this:  To rise above the little things.  – John Burroughs

The quote above is a lesson in self improvement, self help, stress management, health, and happiness.  I think everyone should write this quote down on an index card and place it in the place they’ll see it the most often – on the refrigerator, by your desk, on your bathroom mirror… Small things (like the ones listed below) simply aren’t worth getting riled up over:

  • A leaking faucet.
  • Finding yourself low on gas.
  • The cost of gas.
  • A driver who pulls out in front of you.
  • A barking dog.
  • Having to run to the store for butter or milk.
  • Your team losing a game.
  • The server not bringing your refill as quickly as you’d like.
  • A slow internet connection.
  • And so on….

Think about it – these things are so trivial, they’re almost funny!  Yet how many times do people get hot and bothered over these very things… and often things even sillier.  Recently, my husband and I were eating at an Outback in Nashville, Tennessee (Amazing food!).  A group came in and were seated in a booth, by the window no less.  One of the women got ticked off because they didn’t get to choose their own booth.  There were only a handful available anyway!

If a person can get to the place where small things barely even register a response from them, they’ll be happier than they have ever been.  What’s more, they’ll experience stress so rarely that they’ll think they’ve been given a new lease on life. We spend a great deal of emotions needlessly on small things.  Then when then the larger problems arise – we don’t have much left in our tank.  The larger problems overwhelm us because we’re spent!

Start challenging yourself to handle life’s small disappointments and setbacks better.  Amaze everyone around you by smiling and even laughing when something cooky happens.  Several great things will happen: You’ll feel happier and more relaxed.  What’s more, anyone who sees you handling life’s little annoyances this way will think, “Wow. I want to be more like that!”  Before you know it, you and everyone you know will enjoy a much happier and calmer life.

Worth trying, right?!  The next time something starts to register on your stress scale, take a deep breath.  Then ask yourself, “What if this is the worst thing that happens to me this week?”   The diminutive nature of the problem will leave you amazed and probably even laughing!

Make each moment count double,
~ Joi

Self Growth Generally Doesn’t Happen in a Recliner

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This morning I went about my normal, blissful, much-beloved morning routine. I fed my inside cat, Alexa. I fed my outside cat Ming Li and tried to catch a site of Ming Li’s kittens and baby daddy. The daddy (Jet Li) was nowhere to be found, but the adorable babies were running amok.

Then I came back inside to pour myself and my husband some Heaven – also known as coffee. None of our daughters are ever awake at this point, and they look as cute sleeping now as they did when they were 4, 3, and 1.

My beautiful, picturesque morning came to an end when I remembered what was at the top of my “To Do” list for today. I glanced at the notebook I keep such lists in and could have sworn I heard thunder clap and demons shriek as I opened it up to today’s list. Sure enough, there at the top was the task that I was dreading. I won’t bore or frighten you with the details – besides, unless you’re a web publisher/designer you wouldn’t fully grasp the horror.

Suffice to say, the task that lies before me is one that summons up all of my attention, all of my mental resources, all of my courage… oh, it sucks a gravedigger’s big toe, okay? The left one.

It’s a particular task that I swore I’d never do again because it’s so tedious. It’s a completely different detour from the path my days normally take and, frankly, I love my normal path!

Alexa and I were both glaring at the list when I remembered a quote by Anais Nin: Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.

Oh. Okay.

Then as I was getting my mind around that quote, another one came to mind: Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow. – Ronald E. Osborn

That’s a good one, isn’t it?

The next time you’re up against something that’s intruding upon your blissful, happy, comfortable setting – thank it for its arrival. It bears good fruit.  Self Growth generally doesn’t happen when we’re comfortable.  It’s when we step out of our comfort zone that our potential to grow escalates.   So, I guess it should be something we welcome rather than try to dodge?

Make each moment count double,
~ Joi

More quotes about self growth can be found in Self Help Daily’s Inspirational Quote collection. But be careful, they’ll affect you in a powerful way!

Out With the Negative and In With the Positive

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We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence is therefore not an act, but a habit.  – Aristotle

I’ve been thinking a great deal about habits lately.  The addition of a new, positive habit and the continued battle with a not so positive one started the train of thought.

A couple of days ago, I found myself in my favorite grocery store.  I came to an aisle that I’ve been trying to avoid (the soft drink aisle) for a few weeks. My mind was a million miles away and I wasn’t really even paying attention to what I was doing.  Instead of passing right by the aisle, old habits kicked in and I whirled my way down the aisle of soft drinks.   I actually brought my cart to a halt directly in front of a huge, beloved habit I’ve embraced for over 15 years.  I only became fully aware of where I’d landed when I snapped out of my thought and wondered why I’d stopped.  As I automatically reached for a 2 liter of my favorite diet soda, I asked myself if I wanted to keep fighting against extra sodium and for a healthier diet or if I wanted to revert back to old habits.

It was a struggle – and one that didn’t exactly bring a smile to my face – but I let the bottle remain on the shelf and I wheeled to the tea aisle to try out a new green tea blend.  (On a side note, I grabbed the Lipton Green Tea with Lemon and Ginseng and it’s excellent iced AND hot.

Last night, I had another run in with a habit, but this time it was a very welcomed one.  Two of my daughters and I have been walking regularly for 30 minutes each evening.  Last night, as our regular time approached, I found myself automatically finishing up my kitchen duties in anticipation.  The night before had been rainy and we’d missed out on our walk – so I was raring to go!

In each case, my mind didn’t really plot or plan as much as it simply fell into a groove – a groove that had been created by continual, steady, even predictable actions.  The good news is that a road of good habits is just as easy to pave as a road of bad habits.   The diet soda habit was created over many years, which is why it’s proving to be a very strong opponent.  This particular walking routine is, comparatively, in its infancy but it already has a strong hold on my mind and actions.

Forming new, positive, habits can even help you kick the negative ones.  I’m developing a habit of trying new flavors and combinations of flavors with tea.  I love to find which combinations create the best iced tea and which are best for a cup of hot tea in the evening.  I’m certain that if I keep it up, one day I’ll find my cart pulling me toward the tea aisle rather than the soda aisle.

I read a story once by a man who was talking about his relationship with God.  He said that inside of him lived two men:  One wanted to serve God, read his Bible, pray, and live as righteously as he possibly could.  The other man was a sinner who wanted to avoid God and all that He stood for.  When asked which man was victorious – he said that it was whichever one he “fed” the most.

The same is true of our habits.  If we feed our bad habits, they’ll grow and become stronger as we become weaker.  If we feed our good habits, however, something truly remarkable happens:  We grow and become stronger right along with them.   Our habits either pull us back or push us forward, so choose wisely!

Make each moment count double,

~ Joi

What We Can Learn From Dogs – Yes, Dogs

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The following was included in an e-mail I recently received. Unfortunately, I don’t have any idea whatsoever who wrote it. It’s too good not to pass along, though.

WHAT WE CAN ALL LEARN FROM DOGS:

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

  • When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
  • Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
  • Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.
  • Take naps.
  • Stretch before rising.
  • Run, romp, and play daily.
  • Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
  • Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
  • On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
  • On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
  • When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
  • Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
  • Be loyal.
  • Never pretend to be something you’re not.
  • If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
  • When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.
  • ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

You know how I sign all of my posts on this blog? – Dogs take it to heart. It’s time we started letting ourselves go to the dogs!

Make each moment count double,
~ Joi

A Collection of Powerful Quotes About Depression

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The term clinical depression finds its way into too many conversations these days. One has a sense that a catastrophe has occurred in the psychic landscape. – Leonard Cohen

Depression is rage spread thin. – George Santayana

Depression is nourished by a lifetime of ungrieved and unforgiven hurts. – Penelope Sweet

Remember sadness is always temporary. This, too, shall pass. – Chuck T. Falcon

Depression is the inability to construct a future. – Rollo May

Just as despair can come to one only from other human beings, hope, too, can be given to one only by other human beings. – Elie Weisel

Concern should drive us into action, not depression. – Karen Horney

I cry a lot. My emotions are very close to my surface. I don’t want to hold anything in so it it festers and turns into pus – a pustule of emotion that explodes into a festering cesspool of depression. – Nicolas Cage

If I had not been already been meditating, I would certainly have had to start. I’ve treated my own depression for many years with exercise and meditation, and I’ve found that to be a tremendous help. – Judy Collins

Trials give you strength, sorrows give understanding and wisdom. – Chuck T. Falcon

Just like other illnesses, depression can be treated so that people can live happy, active lives. – Tom Bosley

For me being depressed means you can spend all day in bed, and still not get a good night’s rest. – Unknown

Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment. – Greenville Kleiser

A lot of what passes for depression these days is nothing more than a body saying that it needs work. – Geoffrey Norman

That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. The fog is like a cage without a key. – Elizabeth Wurtzel

Depression is a prison where you are both the suffering prisoner and the cruel jailer. – Dorothy Rowe

If depression is creeping up and must be faced, learn something about the nature of the beast: You may escape without a mauling. – Dr. R. W. Shepherd

In a strange way, I had fallen in love with my depression. Dr. Sterling was right about that. I loved it because I thought it was all I had. I thought depression was the part of my character that made me worthwhile. I thought so little of myself, felt that I had such scant offerings to give to the world, that the one thing that justified my existence at all was my agony. – Elizabeth Wurtzel

Hope is grief’s best music. – Anonymous

Depression is a treatable medical illness like cancer and heart disease. – Judith Peacock

Fall seven times, stand up eight. – Japanese proverb

I’m a strong believer in affirmations and motivational quotes. I have quotes written on everything but my cats. My husband and I were having lunch in a restaurant on Kentucky Lake a few days ago when I saw a quote hanging near the register. I grabbed a pen and copied it on a napkin. Ironically, enough, it fits very well with the topic we’re focusing on this week: Depression. It’s the quote you see in the yellow box below.

“Better keep yourself clean and bright, you’re the window through which you must see the world.” – George Bernard Shaw

My shelves are filled with motivational and inspirational writings and quotes, from the pens and lips of the most brilliant men and women to ever live. I have volumes of biographies, historical textbooks, encyclopedias, novels, etc. Yet one of the most profound, genuinely true, and beautiful quotes I’ve ever read was hanging by a register in a bayside grill.

The lesson this quote teaches and the sermon it preaches is powerfully simplistic. If we want our world to be more beautiful, we have to do something about the way we look at it. It’s like having a dirty kitchen window. The world outside isn’t the problem – the trees are as green as they ever were, the birds are as colorfully beautiful as ever, and the sky? Still blue.

But if the window is dirty, the outside world looks gray and unattractive. Action…proactive efforts… have to be made to clean the window. Once clean, the beauty of the world will, literally, come shining through.

These efforts may include meditation, prayer, exercise, talking it out with a family member or friend, walking in the fresh air (But not during the hottest part of the day, please!), gardening, taking up a great new hobby, adopting a pet or showering yours with more attention, watching an uplifting movie or television show, etc. Keep in mind, also, that if the suggestions above, or similar efforts, don’t make a difference in your condition – you may need medication, even if it’s just for a short period of time.

If that’s what it takes for you to be able to see the world as the beautiful place that it is (the one you remember it as) rather than the gray, dismal space that it’s become – it’s more than worth it. You have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Clinical Depression is a physical illness just like diabetes, asthma, heart disease, etc. If you had any of those, you wouldn’t hesitate to go to the doctor, right? Of course not! After all, going to the doctor would make you feel better, no eed suffering when you don’t have to. Heck it might even save your life.

You can say the same exact things about going to the doctor for depression. After all, going to the doctor would make you feel better, no eed suffering when you don’t have to. Heck it might even save your life.

Make each day count double,
~Joi

How to Know if What You’re Feeling is Depression

Quote About Depression In the same way that when most of us say we’re “starving,” we’re simply hungry – many people say they’re depressed when they’re simply feeling down. Generally, it’s a feeling that’s the result of something that has happened in their life, and when enough time passes, the feelings will heal.  While feeling sad is a horrible feeling that we wouldn’t wish on anyone, we know that better days and sweeter emotions are around the corner. 

However, for those who ARE depressed, better days and sweeter emotions are positively unthinkable.  A depressed individual honestly can’t even phantom smiling again, let alone laughing.

So, how do know which category you fall into?  Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Do I feel sad every day for most of the day?
  2. Have I lost interest in things that once delighted me?
  3. Am I sleeping either much more or much less than I once did?
  4. Am I restless?  Do I have trouble sitting still or shutting my mind off?
  5. Do I feel tired and lethargic most of the time?
  6. Do I feel worthless? Does it seem to me that I don’t serve a purpose to anyone or anything?
  7. Do I feel like I’ve been abandoned by everyone?
  8. Am I having trouble making decisions?
  9. Am I either eating more than usual or less than usual?  Is my weight up or down?
  10. If someone asked me if I liked myself, would my answer be NO?

Another symptom of depression is so fundamentally important that I didn’t want to list it above.  It deserves its own paragraph, because I can’t emphasize it enough. If you EVER have thoughts of suicide or thoughts of hurting yourself in any way – get to a doctor as soon as possible.  Whether it’s 4:00 in the morning or 12:00 at night, emergency rooms are always open!  People want very much to help you, please let them.  Never do anything to yourself or your body that you wouldn’t want done to someone you love.

Look back over the symptoms again.  If you answered “Yes” to 2 or 3 questions, you may be experiencing a “mild” form of depression.  If you can “pin” these feelings to a particular event, chances are good that what you need is time.  Don’t feel guilty for feeling down and don’t make the mistake of allowing these temporary feelings to identify you.  You are a vibrant and happy person who is simply feeling down at the moment.

If you answered “Yes” to 5 or more questions – you are a vibrant and happy person who probably needs help finding that person once more.  The thing many people don’t realize is that doctors can help with depression.  But you have to go!  And you have to keep going when they tell you to – if medications are involved, you have to work with your doctor to make sure your dosage is where it needs to be.

Never, ever try to doctor yourself.  No good ever comes from that.

If you have been thinking about suicide, or hurting yourself in any way - please see a doctor immediately.  Your world doesn’t have to stay dark, there are plenty of wonderful people who can help you find the light again.

If you are on the “mild” end of depression or if you are simply feeling blue, begin (as in RIGHT NOW!) looking for ways to make you feel better. The next post will contain a long list of ideas for you to pull from – from meditating to exercising, you’ll find so much to do you won’t have time to feel anything but busy!

Make each moment count double,
~Joi

Taking the Power Away From Fear

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I‘ve been thinking about fear a lot lately.  I came, literally, face to forked tongue with my greatest fear a few days ago.  Thanks be to God we were separated by the glass door in our home office or I may have fainted dead away.  My fear of these things is that profound.

The thing that unsettles me about this fear is that it’s unreasonable.  I’ve never been wronged, in any way, by any reptile.  The only animal that ever got an attitude with me was a Siamese cat who got nasty with everyone.  Yet, cats are the last thing in the world I’m afraid of.

Truth be known, I don’t have any fear whatsoever associated with any animal besides snakes.  I’m not fond of bugs or mice, mind you, but I don’t experience the same head to toe panic that I do when I see a snake.

I’m actually pretty bold with all other animals.  I wrestled a very large, strong pit bull once that was chasing my kittens.  The dog wasn’t hurt one bit (he thought we were playing a game), but one of my ankles hurt for months!

I even went outside one night a few months ago because I saw a coyote in the front yard and wanted to get a closer look.   I’ve done the same with Raccoons, even a family of them. 

Yet, here was this thing on my patio and I froze with fear.  Not only did I NOT go outside while it was lurking, I haven’t been around back since.  See?  There’s that unreasonable-ness I was talking about.  It bothers me because I’m giving this fear power over me.

The more I think about it, the more certain I am that I’ll be taking a nice, long walk in my yard when I get up from here.  I might even sit on the patio for a few minutes – after picking up sticks in the yard. Yay, go girl!

Nay, stop girl.  Let’s forget the whole picking up sticks thing.  I am going to walk around and do so without doing a double take with each stick, shadow and noise, though. Dorothy Thompson once said, “The most destructive element in the human mind is fear.” Eleanor Roosevelt went so far as to say, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”

If I’m not mistaken, I think her words would like me to confront a snake on some level. Lady, please.

Maybe one day I’ll be able to look at one without the hairs on my arms standing on end. Actually I’d like that very much. One step at a time, though. I’m sure Mrs. Roosevelt would understand.

Will my venture into the yard be less bold if I carry the shovel with me?

Make each moment count double,
~Joi

One Of My Favorite Martin Luther King, Jr. Quotes

Martin Luther King, Jr. Quote

Martin Luther King, Jr. Quote

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